Maybe It's The Question

Maybe it's the question that is too vague. To me, when a guy asks, "Are you busy?" Or "What are you doing?" He's not asking for his general health, he's asking because he wants to know if you are available. Available to get together. Because if you are not busy, the next question that would follow is, "Would you like to do something?"

But it occurred to me that not everyone has that thought process. Maybe I need to be more direct in the request, leading with a statement, "I would like to get together with you. When are you available?"

It's direct. No question there as to what I'm getting at. So maybe the wishy-washiness of boys is not me, rather it's my own wishy-washiness. Maybe I should be looking in a mirror.

So why am I not asking a more direct question?

Fear of rejection? Could it be that when a guy says he's busy, it's less of a let down? But what are the chances of a boy saying, "No, I don't want to get together with you."? If he doesn't want to get together with me, he's going to say, "Sure, I'll let you know when I'm available," and then I'll just never hear from him again. Wouldn't that be the same let down as finding out he's always busy?

I think I'm going to try and see what happens. I'll report back.